MENDING A BROKEN HEART

"To fall in love is pretty simple, but to fall out of love is simply awful"

Mending a broken heart is a difficult process. It's never that easy especially if your had the wrong end of the stick i.e. being the one who wanted the relationship to last. However, the wrongest thing you can do to yourself is to create a wall and stop loving.

Here a few tips to go beyond the pain and try to mend the broken heart.

View it realistically and stop beating around the bush 

It's difficult to face reality in an unpleasant situation but it's always better to go through it and not around it. There is NO short cut with this one. You have to feel the pain and grief before you can actually move on. If you keep going around the issues, somewhere somehow they always resurface. It much better to go through the pain because it will only making you strong in the long run.

Learn to be independent again

You need to allow yourself time to find closure within yourself. Don't be quick to dive into another relationship. Have time to yourself and stop trying desperately to win your lover back. It hardly works anyways.. So what's the point? It's your job to fill the empty the vacuum and remember... the only way to peace and happiness is detachment. The thought of thinking your partner is gone is painful because you will feel empty without them but with your little power, you will eventually conquer the 'depression'. Focus on things that make you happy and have some ME time.

Laugh and Cry

It's therapeutic and these 2 emotions heal to a certain extent. Let's not kid ourselves here yeah.. We always feel better after a good cry or even a good laugh. There are psychological reasons behind this to show it works. Don't be scared to let it all out. Release the stress.

Remove all the memories of that person from your everyday life

It's a temporary measure to forget how much they broke your heart. Removing is different from destroying. You don't have to do anything crude, just keep them far away from you.  So when you are in love with someone else the memories will be a record of what you went through to get to where you are today.

Stay Optimistic

 It's not as easy as it sounds, but when you are feeling down and being negative, remind yourself of the good things in life and how lucky you are to have good people around you. Smile always, watch films and hang out with your friends. It always helps.

Be Understanding and Forgiving

Don't be hell bent on whose fault it was and wasn't. It's just not necessary and it's time consuming. 'Focus on the issues NOT the actors'. For example, did he take advantage? If yes, make sure you look out for the signs in the next relationship so you don't make the same mistakes. Obviously at the point, you wish you could take back a lot but you can't. Focus on making it not happen in your next relationship and motivation will start creeping in for your next relationship. What caused the heartbreak? Make sure it doesn't repeat itself in the future.

Lean on your friends

Your friends should be there to help you through this tough time and inspire you to feel good and move on. Talk to a good friend about how you really feel about the heart break and confide in them. If you need to vent, the VENT to them. Chances are you will feel a lot better. Just make sure it's a trustworthy person that's not trying to create a mockery of your situation and the person has your best interest at heart.

Staying friends with your ex?

Doing this is not practical. You need to move on. There is a difference between being friends and being friendly. Maybe later on life, you can be friends when all feelings have diminished. Until then, please forget about being friendly with your ex.

Learn from your breakup

It's up to you what you want to make out of the situation. But it's in your best interest to make the outcome positive and learn from the mistakes made. Ask yourself important questions and see if they are areas in your life that need attention. Most of all, cater to yourself and fulfil your needs. 

It's not the end of the world.

LOVE AGAIN

Don't close up your heart. Love again and deeply too with the same intensity. At the end of the day, what's life without love? It is such a satisfying feeling and surely you can't be heart broken ALL the time. I don't think anyone has such bad luck. You will eventually find 'the one'.

Hope this was insightful!! Till we come your way soon.

GOD BLESS YOU ALL! REMEMBER ALWAYS TO LET GO AND LET GOD.

OLIANDLOLA

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