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HOW TO CREATE YOUR IDEAL RELATIONSHIP
"TAKE YOUR TIME BECAUSE RELATIONSHIPS THAT START FAST END FAST"

What does it mean to be in an ideal relationship?

If you think being in an ideal relationship means happy days forever without misunderstandings, then we would like to think that you are wrong. An ideal relationship keeps itself strong in the good  and bad times. The loyalty in the relationship never wavers. Always try to understand your partner because it's not always about you. We all have our selfish moments, but when it's beginning to consume your partner in the relationship, that's an indicator that something is clearly wrong.

"Find someone who changes your life positively not just your relationship status"


HANDLE DISPUTES IN A DIGNIFYING MANNER
During an argument, give your partner time to talk so he/she cane get the point across. Afterwards, take a deep breath and reply constructively. Whoever is in the wrong at the end of the dispute, needs to acknowledge his/her fault be corrected in love and the relationship can genuinely continue like nothing happened. Handling disputes in this manner in our opinion is a must must! It's hard to do this sometimes, but relationships are mysterious like that, there has to be a calm approach to amending situations and settling disputes. Relationships are mysterious like that. Lol! 



THE ABILITY TO TELL YOUR PARTNER HOW YOU REALLY FEEL
If your relationship is valuable and the love runs deep, this should come naturally. In some cases, some partners even though they aren't mind readers... lol can actually sense what exactly is wrong with their partner. I guess it's some sort of connection that grows over time in the relationship. Some of us suffer from trust issues but it should be okay to tell your partner how you really feel when it's necessary. Chances are when you do this, the relationship gets closer and in some cases deeper.

"Keep calm and build relationships"


HAVE THE ABILITY TO LOVE
What's life without love? It's incredible to love and be loved back, nothing is more awesome than mutual love. That's an ideal relationship itself because the feelings are mutual. Love whole heartedly with no conditions and your relationship will have a STRONG base. All relationships go through hell but REAL relationships with love get through it. Never ever underestimate the power of love.

PRAY
A couple that prays together stays together. It's important to be spiritually inclined in life because it creates a positive ora within the relationship with some supernatural power. It's also relieving to know that God has got you both and he will guard and protect your relationship. Don't undermine what prayers can do... It's the best way to draw strength from heaven.


TIME AND PATIENCE
Being patient can be hard sometimes, but in order to maintain an ideal relationship, you have to possess patience. Although it can be time - consuming, it always guides you on the best way to sort things out.  Sorting out issues becomes much easier with patience. Patience is an essential ingredient in creating an ideal relationship. Also, try as much as possible to stay true to your promises and if you know you can't, don't bother making them.


"No relationship is all sunshine, but two people under one umbrella can survive a storm together".

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WEARING THE RIGHT UNDERWEAR

Good evening everyone,

It's been such a long day, we are sat here with a brew writing this article for you. As we were on the tube on the way home today, we got into a conversation with an elegant and eloquent lady heading towards Kent.  As the conversation went on, she happened to mention a topic about undergarments. 

“Underwear can either make or break an outfit”
There is nothing more important that wearing the right undergarment appropriate for an outfit.  Underwear is essential to our everyday lives as women. It is one of the KEY aspects of getting dressed and feeling sexy.

Firstly, knowing your RIGHT bra size is key when going bra shopping. There is nothing more revolting than a lady wearing a wrong bra size which is either too high up at the back or there is nip/slip :(.Once you know your right bra size, there are 4 essential  bras every woman should own:

 T-shirt bra

 Push up bra

 Plunge bra

 Strapless bra

Recommended brands for full cups are Bravissimo, Curvy Kate, and Triumph. It is important as a full - cupped woman to wear bras with good support. For smaller cupped women you can pretty much buy fancy bras anywhere like Wonder bra,Victoria Secrets etc.Secondly, wearing the RIGHT panties under your outfit can make a huge difference to your outfit.  It is unattractive going out with your panty line showing or the colour showing under your outfit. 

Every woman should possess different panties that would work with their outfits. 

Some essential type of pants are:

 Period pants (Black)

    Seamless pants

Thongs

  G – strings *wink*

Lastly, if you are a plus sized woman , wearing girdles under your outfit can help enhance and shape you.  Once you have perfected the art of wearing the right underwear appropriate for your desired outfit, there is a higher possibility of the outfit looking good. Brands like Spanx, Truimph and Debenhams sell decent girdles for body magic *wink*

Start saving for an underwear spree and get what you need to enhance 

your outfit leaving you confident and beautiful.

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GETTING MARRIED EARLY???

*TO WED OR NOT TO WED*

The Bond of two hearts for all of Eternity as a symbol of 

LOVE, PARTNERSHIP, FRIENDSHIP AND GROWTH. 

"GETTING MARRIED BEFORE 23 SOUNDS LIKE LEAVING A PARTY BEFORE 10PM "

PRO..... PRO..... PRO 

The union of Man and Woman biblically dates back to the start of time (Adam and Eve); it is a blessed union which allows two souls to intertwine and be one. If speaking in religious terms such a union-ship is one which God saw as necessary hence the creation of EVE.

Now in reference to the title of our topic today 'GETTING MARRIED EARLY???' getting

married young is not necessarily a recipe for disaster; if two people are in love they have the 

right to wed at the legal age as age does not determine maturity. However even though this is 

the argument for PRO we would recommend that if a couple are to marry young they have to 

take into consideration key elements to a successful marriage such as finances etc.

Marrying is not about age. If two people  meet at 18 and are still together till 22 and 

decide they want to WED, surely 4 years of nurturing a relationship is sufficient in our eyes. If 

the argument for AGAINST is that, from a woman's perspective, they do not get a chance to 

enjoy their youth and  they are departing from the single life before it is just getting good surely 

this is a personal choice... NOT EVERYONE NEEDS THE PARTY TO START IN ORDER TO 

KNOW IT'S NOT FOR THEM.

( This analogy is basically saying some people don't need to experiment with their lives they are 

naturally inclined to be family orientated as they have no real desire to be out and about but 

know they prefer the role of a wife and mother).

AGAINST.....AGAINST.....AGAINST  

It's seems to be the trend especially in Africa to get married early.  There is so much to discover 

to discover in the world these days. It makes me wonder why some people want to be tied down 

by marriage and starting a family BEFORE they are even 23! *wow*

Yes not everyone is career orientated as some people are family oriented. But we believe there is 

a certain sense of maturity that has to grow over time.  It's only through experiences that you get mature. Wonder how much experience a young girl before 23 has. Hmmmn... Maybe they are a few exceptions... BUT STILL??

We think young ladies these days care more about the wedding (a day) and forget that marriage  is for a lifetime OR maybe because of the social status that comes with getting married. 

However, some people get married early and get away with it.  Subsequently, statistics have 

shown that most young marriages don't last.

Before 23, you should still be figuring who you really are, the type of man you want and what 

you would like to achieve in life. Once you have that mapped out properly, you are at a better 

chance of getting the right end of the stick because your emotionally and psychologically able to 

deal with the stress that comes with it.

As single birds, we have both begun to find ourselves and what we truly want to achieve in life. 

It seems to the both of us that we are more career orientated than family oriented. But by the 

time Mr. Right walks by at the right time, we will have a better chance of getting the right end 

of the stick because we have begun to map out our dreams and aspirations.

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MENDING A BROKEN HEART

"To fall in love is pretty simple, but to fall out of love is simply awful"

Mending a broken heart is a difficult process. It's never that easy especially if your had the wrong end of the stick i.e. being the one who wanted the relationship to last. However, the wrongest thing you can do to yourself is to create a wall and stop loving.

Here a few tips to go beyond the pain and try to mend the broken heart.

View it realistically and stop beating around the bush 

It's difficult to face reality in an unpleasant situation but it's always better to go through it and not around it. There is NO short cut with this one. You have to feel the pain and grief before you can actually move on. If you keep going around the issues, somewhere somehow they always resurface. It much better to go through the pain because it will only making you strong in the long run.

Learn to be independent again

You need to allow yourself time to find closure within yourself. Don't be quick to dive into another relationship. Have time to yourself and stop trying desperately to win your lover back. It hardly works anyways.. So what's the point? It's your job to fill the empty the vacuum and remember... the only way to peace and happiness is detachment. The thought of thinking your partner is gone is painful because you will feel empty without them but with your little power, you will eventually conquer the 'depression'. Focus on things that make you happy and have some ME time.

Laugh and Cry

It's therapeutic and these 2 emotions heal to a certain extent. Let's not kid ourselves here yeah.. We always feel better after a good cry or even a good laugh. There are psychological reasons behind this to show it works. Don't be scared to let it all out. Release the stress.

Remove all the memories of that person from your everyday life

It's a temporary measure to forget how much they broke your heart. Removing is different from destroying. You don't have to do anything crude, just keep them far away from you.  So when you are in love with someone else the memories will be a record of what you went through to get to where you are today.

Stay Optimistic

 It's not as easy as it sounds, but when you are feeling down and being negative, remind yourself of the good things in life and how lucky you are to have good people around you. Smile always, watch films and hang out with your friends. It always helps.

Be Understanding and Forgiving

Don't be hell bent on whose fault it was and wasn't. It's just not necessary and it's time consuming. 'Focus on the issues NOT the actors'. For example, did she take advantage? If yes, make sure you look out for the signs in the next relationship so you don't make the same mistakes. Obviously at the point, you wish you could take back a lot but you can't. Focus on making it not happen in your next relationship and motivation will start creeping in for your next relationship. What caused the heartbreak? Make sure it doesn't repeat itself in the future.

Lean on your friends

Your friends should be there to help you through this tough time and inspire you to feel good and move on. Talk to a good friend about how you really feel about the heart break and confide in them. If you need to vent, the VENT to them. Chances are you will feel a lot better. Just make sure it's a trustworthy person that's not trying to create a mockery of your situation and the person has your best interest at heart.

Staying friends with your ex?

Doing this is not practical. You need to move on. There is a difference between being friend and being friendly. Maybe later on life, you can be friends when all feelings have diminished. Until then, please forget about being friends with your ex.

Learn from your breakup

It's up to you what you want to make out of the situation. But it's in your best interest to make the outcome positive and learn from the mistakes made. Ask yourself important questions and see if they are areas in your life that need attention. Most of all, cater to yourself and fulfil your needs. 

It's not the end of the world.

LOVE AGAIN

Don't close up your heart. Love again and deeply too with the same intensity. At the end of the day, what's life without love? It is such a satisfying feeling and surely you can't be heart broken ALL the time. I don't think anyone has such bad luck. You will eventually find 'the one'.

Hope this was insightful!! Till we come your way soon.

GOD BLESS YOU ALL! REMEMBER ALWAYS TO LET GO AND LET GOD.

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GOD+HIS CHOSEN CHILDREN

GREATEST BATTLES ARE WON ON THE KNEES FOR 

NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE WITH GOD.

It's important in life for God to be your NUMBER ONE priority. As young women striving for 

success in the world today, we have to come to realise that our spirits need to be aligned with God's will. It's essential for  us to establish God's purpose because our lives are blessings and we would love to accomplish our creator's plan in our lives. 

 "PRAY FOR IT WITH YOUR WHOLE HEART" - WIZKID

When it comes to us chasing our dreams we always remember James 5:16 "The effectual 

fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much". Prayer is essential for everyone and more 

critical for those who are destined for great things and have the  ambition/will to go the extra 

mile . It is a humbling practice  which allows God's children to acknowledge where their 

blessings come from and show appreciation. It is simply a conversation with God. Prayer shows 

your trust in God to unveil all that we ask for. Always remember Matthew 21: 22 "If you believe, you will receive whatever you ask for in prayer".

*HARD WORK + PRAYER = SUCCESS*

"CHASE YOUR DREAMS, KEEP BELIEVING AND YOUR PEAK WILL BE YOUR BEGINNING" - WIZKID

When God pours out an abundance of blessings into your life, it will be such a profound blessing that what you perceive to be your peak will only be the beginning of God's works. The blessings that follow those who work hard and chase their dreams will change their circumstances positively.  The circumstances that we are born in or  we find ourselves in do no determine what will happen tomorrow. The God of Abraham, Isaac  and Jacob will "take you out of the miry clay, he will set your feet upon a rock and establish your goings" (Psalm 40:2).

*BECAUSE YOU HAVE NOTHING TODAY DOES NOT MEAN THAT YOU WON'T HAVE SOMETHING TOMORROW* 

"GOD DO IT FOR ME" - WIZKID

BLESSED BE YOUR HOLY NAME 

Acknowledge the one who blesses; do not put your trust in man or in your own works for they 

do not last. In all things glorify God and give thanks even before the blessings come. Matthew 

6:33 "Seek first his kingdom and righteousness and all these things shall be added unto to you".

"NEVER STOP, FORWARD EVER BACKWARD NEVER"  - WIZKID

"HUSTLE AND WORK YOU WILL NEVER EVER LACK" - WIZKID

"MONKEY GO WORK, BABOON GO CHOP - E NO GO BE YOUR PORTION" - WIZKID

As you have noticed Wizkid Ayo - Balogun is one of our motivational figures in life. And he 

never fails to mention how grateful he is to God in his successful career.

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