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ENDURING LOVE IS NOT BUILT IN A DAY
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WOMEN
1.Women BE PHENOMENAL in everything you do for your man- Women nowadays women can sometimes take a laissez-faire approach when it comes to catering to their man. You have to make him feel like he has won a trophy; be so great that if he ever replaced you he would regret it. FORGET 80/20 RULE be 100% so that you are always the best. Catering to your man's need is not showing weakness but is an expression of LOVE and ADMIRATION.
'I promise you
I'll keep myself up
Remain the same chick
You fell in love with
I'll keep it Tight, I'll keep my figure Right'
Does anyone remember these lyrics - cater to you Destiny's child
Now ladies as much as men love your personality and everything they also want a woman who they are proud to stand by. Maintenance is key to keeping a man and we should not let ourselves slip and start looking up-kept. If it means hitting the gym, going to the spa then surely if you love him you can sacrifice and do whatever it takes to keep looking good for your man.
'I know whatever I'm not Fulfilling
Another woman is willing'
Believe us when we say another woman is very very willing to take your man from you if you do not know how to treat him good. And as much as it is easy to blame the other woman sometimes the blame is on us for not appreciating him.
BE A PHENOMENAL WOMAN IN EVERY ASPECT- EMOTIONALLY, PHYSICALLY, SPIRITUALLY ETC.
2. Do not settle for less - a phenomenal woman needs a phenomenal man -
Time wasters or not allowed, do not let men string you along and use you. Know your worth and go for a man who matches your worth. The game of love is tricky and if you fall too quick you will be blinded to the flaws and the signs of disaster.
FALL IN LOVE BUT WITH BOTH EYES OPEN lol.
Make sure that the man you get can up grade you in some way and we do not mean in the materialistic sense but we mean upgrade in regards to what he adds to you. A relationship should encourage growth in both people. Do not make excuses for men who are not up to par; do not allow for his bad behaviour to be rewarded. If you see the guy is wasting your time follow your instincts and leave.
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Additional advice
* Do not rush love - be patient and take time to get to know one another. If your partner is not understanding that you want to take it slow maybe you need to rethink things. Never rush because you need to build a relationship, especially one heading towards marriage, on a solid foundation.
*Do not confuse lust for love
*Find a best friend and you will have the best lover for life.
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MEN
1. Is the woman really the right one -
To all the men out there we are probably gonna sound like your mothers but you should not settle for anything less than the best. A woman who you are considering for a serious relationship should uphold the same values and beliefs that you have. This is such an important area to cover because whatever beliefs and values she has she will most likely pass on to your kids. She will be the mother of your children and how she acts today might be an indicator of what she will pass on to your children.
When trying to discern which woman is the right one physical attractiveness is nice but look for other qualities. You must realise that you will spend the rest of your life with this woman therefore make sure that you are compatible and that you can actually have good conversation.
DO NOT INVEST IN A WOMAN WHO IS NOT WORTH IT
You better recognise a real woman and when you do treat her like a QUEEN.
2. Are you ready to commit
Now in a previous article we did a topic about men being in their playa stage and how during this stage they try and secure themselves financial etc. and acquire the things that allow them to compete when they are in their settling down stage. In this time of their life they might run into the woman of their dreams but because their focus is all on themselves and prospering as a man they either mess it up or do not value the woman.
We want to help you guys out and advise you that if this is you and you recognise that you have a woman who can potentially be the one but you are not ready NURTURE THE RELATIONSHIP.
Do not try and commit when you realise you are not ready but if you know she is good for you invest in getting to know her as a friend and when you are ready make manly
movements lol.
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OLIANDLOLA
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@OliandLola -twitter
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