SMART DATING IS ABOUT UNDERSTANDING THAT NOT EVERYTHING IN LIFE NEEDS TO BE RUSHED. IT IS ABOUT PROTECTING YOURSELF FROM UNNECESSARY HARM BY DOING YOUR DUE DILIGENCE AND THROUGHLY ASSESSING THE TYPE OF PERSON YOU ARE INTERESTED IN. IT IS THE ABILITY TO READ BETWEEN THE LINES AND OBSERVE THINGS SILENTLY AS A MEANS OF PREVENTING OURSELVES FROM FALLING BLINDLY IN TO TRAPS.
1. TELL YOUR FEELINGS TO COLLECT SOME CHILL
In these situations sometimes you need to just relax on the intense feelings and administer some chill. If you are prone to falling to quick then make a habit of reminding yourself that sometimes slow and steady wins the race and also helps save face.
It can sometimes be a little too intense if you are showing extreme feelings for a person who you have only just met, so please collect some chill.
Just because the person maybe physically attractive does not mean we should be blind to personality and important things such as beliefs and moral principles.
If you allow yourself to have fanciful eyes you might find yourself entering a relationship where you get along for a few years due to the happy honeymoon stage but then breaking up or divorcing depending on how far in you take the relationship.
Most people can tolerate someone who is different to them for so long but eventually they collide. If you fail to calm your feelings and investigate their beliefs and really look at the meaning of their actions and how they conduct themselves in comparison to other men or women then you might just be entering a doomed relationship
2. SIT BACK AND ASSESS
Most times ladies and gents it is good to sit and assess how you are feeling about the ‘relationship’, do not be in a rush to get in a relationship or be with someone to the point where you do not take time to assess the person’s personality. The personality that people approach you with on first impression tends to be a lie; everyone seeks to impress with their first impression so they tend to put their best foot forward.
You as a smart dater should be aware of this always and take time to get comfortable with the person so they show you their true nature. Do not get frilly and start losing all sense and logic just because you are getting attention, make sure you maintain a certain level of calm which allows you to SEE behind the little actions and habits that the person has.
-FEW THINGS TO CONSIDER-
*EACH PERSON HAS CERTAIN IMPORTANT FACTORS WHICH THEY USE AS A TICK LIST*
FOR MEN
Is she sexually promiscuous and easy to get in bed?
Does she lose a lot of female friends?
Is she wifey material?
What is her moral compass like?
How did you attain her? – gives insight on how free she is.
Has she had drama surrounding her?
Does she have prospects? – (dreams and vision)
-Food for thought-
If she was your child would you be pleased by her actions ?
– whatever she does will be what she passes on to your daughter
FOR WOMEN
Does he have wondering eyes?
Does he have a history of cheating?
Does he cause trouble and get into drama?
What is his temper like?
Does he respect women?
RELIGIOUSLY (If you value religion)
Does he/she believe in anything?
Does he/she pretend to be religious?
Does he/she actually have a godly heart?
Is she a virtuous woman?
Is he a man of valor?
THE SUMMARY
As a smart dater it is your duty to have your eyes wide open and look and guard yourself from fools by thoroughly checking out the person you are with.
WE (oliandlola) practice the art of observation with just about everything in life. Life has taught us that sometimes you need to take it slow and take time to ASSESS the situation before leaping head first. A lot of people approach us asking for relationship advice and what we have noticed is that they tend to get caught up in feelings a little too quickly and get hurt.
We understand that as we enter a certain stage of our lives we start to search for companionship and that person who can complete us. We search for the one person who we will grow old with, but in that search we can sometimes be a little foolish in the game of love. This is where we both employ the notion of smart dating.
OLIANDLOLA
XO
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