MEN AND SETTLING DOWN WITH THE RIGHT ONE

...RELATIONSHIP TALK...

One of our favourite male actors has been recently engaged and this inspired us to write this article on men settling down. 

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Now as young women we personally are not experiencing the pressures that come with trying to get 

men to settle down as we are still focussing on finding our own path and trying to be independent. 

However we are aware that some women are facing the challenges of dealing with men who 

are not committed and ready to settle down. In this article we will try and highlight some of the 

reasons why men might find it difficult to settle down and what we as women need to do to set 

ourselves apart as wife material. 

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Not all men are the same so we will refrain from generalising but still try and provide you as readers

 with some of the most popular reasons for why men might not want to settle down. In regards to 

dating, men experience different stages in their lives: the adolescence stage, the playa stage and the 

settling down stage; most women tend to cross paths with men while they are in their playa stage

 and this is when issues of settling down arise. As women hoping to get married and find

something that is worth while,  we have a propensity to require the settling down stage from 

men who have not reached this desired frame of mind. 

Now us being women we know that this could be frustrating and painful to women who are seeking 

a more solid relationship as they are not finding what they are seeking.

WHY IS THIS YOU MAY ASK?? 

(Now this is when we must try and refrain from generalising as no man is identical to the next but,

we will try and offer some of the popular answers to this pivotal question) 

1.  He is in the playa stage - Now during this stage of a man's life any woman trying to

 make a man settle down at this time could potentially be wasting their time. While a man in this 

stage he could meet some of the most remarkable women but due to his frame of mind he will most 

likely be blind to the woman's amazing characteristic because it is not what he is searching for.

  *Now this frame of mind is not because the man is a sleaze and simply wishes to sleep around

 during the player stage*

 As women we have to realise that during the player stage men are not just 

simply wishing to run around being playas; It is an stage where they grow as an individual and try 

to secure the facets which will allow them to compete in the settling down stage e.g good income 

etc.

2. There is a certain type he is in search for - Now this can be the sad reality that

some women are facing with men. Most men already have a preconceived notion of the TYPE of

woman they want to marry and this could be tall slim etc. but that doesn't mean that during his dating

stage he will not entertain short and curvy. Similar to the actor we referenced early he was known

during his dating stage to go for women who were less of the intellectual branch and more overtly

beautiful. 

However when assessing the woman he is engaged to she does not entirely fit the profile of the 

women he DATED. What we are trying to say ladies is that most men have an idea of what type 

of women they want to bring home to mom and it does not matter how amazing you might be in 

some cases you are just not the one. Its sad but true. It is important to actually ask men WHAT 

TYPE OF WOMAN do you want to end up with and as we have come to find with our friends this

 tends to differ from the past or present women in their lives during their dating stage.

Now this does not mean as women we should now have low self esteem it just means YOU ARE

NOT THE ONE FOR HIM. 

3. Men have an innate desire to be domesticated - Now with most men during

their dating stage they could be searching for a woman who is worth them stepping aside from the

game and leaving the fast lane to settle down. Now this is where the smiles can come as you do not

have to be physically the most amazing women to attract men at this stage in their life.

You will come to find that brains can overpower beauty and that an intellectual mind can be very

attractive. Accomplished women have a certain air about them which is very attractive as they

mentally can stimulate a man. Most men want to settle down with a women who can stimulate them

is ways that are just beyond the physical (the physical stimulation is important but other things are

key too) and this is why as women we must also have what it takes to make a man see us as good

enough to leave the game ; YOU MUST MAKE HIM FEEL LIKE HE HAS JUST FOUND A 

DIAMOND.


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