SEX - THE QUESTION OF WHEN TO SAY 'YES'

The question will NOT be the same for every relationship. The dynamics of every relationship is very different.

When a man thinks your 'too easy' he will think less of you. Yeah yeah.. Equality talk especially when it comes to sexual equality is usually sketchy.

I hear some women say YES on a first date. This should NEVER be the case no matter how liberated you think he is. He just won't take you seriously, that's just too easy and even if it's your first time doing such, he won't believe you. Don't play your cards like that.

NOT EVEN on a second date, please take your time and get to know each other PROPERLY. The respect will seize sooner or later. No matter how much he pushes you even if you think his 'finances' are great and you'll lose him. Please save yourself  some face and don't go down that path. He will respect you more this way.

DON'T YOU DARE on a third date, even if he's spent so much money and he is expecting something in return. It's still not a good enough reason to become intimate. If he keeps pushing you on every single date, it's up to you to decide if he is actually worth it or not.

We all know this!

SEX without commitment - RISKY

SEX without protection - DEADLY

SEX that compromises your beliefs - FOOLISH

SEX at the end of the day is YOUR CHOICE

Say YES when the relationship begins to have prospects. Time will tell if it's worth it or not. What's the hurry? Calm yourself and do things properly. Otherwise you will be ruining your reputation as a woman and no one else's. Be in a committed relationship first of all and then you can contemplate whether or not it's time to say 'YES' depending on your religious or personal beliefs. Whatever floats your boat. 

Just ALWAYS value yourself and your needs as well as FIDELITY. But don't take advantage of this and have ask for fidelity so you can have sex without guilt.. Some food for thought

Say YES when the quality of your connection counts. Any man can masquerade Prince Charming with all the sweet words with a shallow connection and some are steady and serious. It's up to you to make the difference.

P.S. If you have not met his friends and family, are you sure you are really his girlfriend?

YOU DON'T NEED MEN SAYING ... "OH THAT GIRL... BEEN THERE, DONE THAT"!!!

"DONT LOSE YOURSELF IN AN ATTEMPT TO HOLD ON TO SOMEONE WHO DOESNT CARE ABOUT LOSING YOU"

As girls, we ought to have each other's back!!! Tell a friend, to tell a friend to READ this article!!! You never know who you can save from falling into this trap!!!

GOD BLESS YOU!!!

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