"CONFIDENCE IS SILENT. INSECURITES ARE LOUD"
Insecurities can ruin a lot of things and it can also make us stronger. Don't feed your insecurities otherwise it will consume you. Relationships fail because people take their own insecurities and then twist them into their partners flaws. A starting point to overcoming insecurities whatever it may be would be to STOP comparing yourself to others and INSTEAD try and be the best you can be. Most bad behaviour comes from insecurity.
We all suffer from our own different insecurities in life. Don't be deceived we ALL have various ones no matter how glam anyone's life looks. What makes it better is how we deal with our insecurities. In the context of personal growth, a secure person knows who they are and what they plan to achieve in life. They are not looking at the next person and consistently picking unnecessary faults . When insecure, you are never sure about yourself and this leads to the creation of you always feeling vulnerable and how you feel about yourself is consistently shaped by the views and ideas of what others think about you.
- DIFFERENT REASONS THAT BREED INSECURITIES -
A distressed childhood, adolescence or even adulthood plays a prominent role with insecurities because they have never been allowed to express how they really feel and are always on edge for the next bad thing to happen due to living in fear of someone and the awful rigid expectations that they have been subjected to.
Peer pressure can also be detrimental. Why live up to anybody's standards? Live up to yours and be content with that. This creates a vacuum for intense insecurities because you may not be able to fulfil social expectations expected of you by the media and friends especially if it's just not your character. Nothing can be as good as the original so get better at being YOU.
Past experiences can blur your future expectations. But convince yourself and pray that it will be okay in the end. If it's not okay, then it's not the end. Don't let your past experiences colour your future expectations and this is what insecurities usually do.
If you have materialistic tendencies, chances are that you will fall very deep into the trap of insecurities. Especially when you can't keep up with the lifestyle that you are killing yourself to live. Don't be in the habit of collecting and acquiring ALL the time.
Being a doubtful person can be very overwhelming, it's easier to tell yourself it will work out rather than it won't work out. If you suffer from this which most people do, just make it a strong prayer point and God will have it covered. It hinders success seriously.
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- SPOTTING INSECURITIES IN OTHERS -
Jealously is usually a classic sign of insecurity. It's always good to be weary of very insecure people because they just might not have your best interest at heart. That just the blatant truth. Selfishness and the spirit of always acquiring *what can I have* is a major sign. It's never about helping others, it's always about proving that they are better than others.
People pleasers - Everyone can't like you, going around trying to please everyone will eventually lead to people hating you because you can't be STRAIGHT with the personality. It's just what it is. You end up faking half the time just to fit in. These people find it hard to say 'NO' because they feel they will be neglected if they do.
Chatterboxes - You always feel the need to let people know what you're doing ALL the time. No sense of surprise about you because all you ever want is to be noticed and receive attention. It's usually a sign of being insecure and not being happy within yourself.
Defensiveness - These people fight any attempts of anyone trying to give them constructive criticism. They just don't want to hear it. Getting productive feedback from people just don't work for them no matter what it is.
Body language is always the give away. The way a person holds themselves is a clear indicator of how they feel about themselves most times however, there is always the odd exception. Approach people with insecurities with caution and watch what you say and how you say things that affect them. Don't make yourself a negative influence in their lives.
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~ DON'T LET YOUR INSECURITIES KILL YOURSELF ESTEEM ~
OLIANDLOLA
We all suffer from our own different insecurities in life. Don't be deceived we ALL have various ones no matter how glam anyone's life looks. What makes it better is how we deal with our insecurities. In the context of personal growth, a secure person knows who they are and what they plan to achieve in life. They are not looking at the next person and consistently picking unnecessary faults . When insecure, you are never sure about yourself and this leads to the creation of you always feeling vulnerable and how you feel about yourself is consistently shaped by the views and ideas of what others think about you.
- DIFFERENT REASONS THAT BREED INSECURITIES -
Peer pressure can also be detrimental. Why live up to anybody's standards? Live up to yours and be content with that. This creates a vacuum for intense insecurities because you may not be able to fulfil social expectations expected of you by the media and friends especially if it's just not your character. Nothing can be as good as the original so get better at being YOU.
Past experiences can blur your future expectations. But convince yourself and pray that it will be okay in the end. If it's not okay, then it's not the end. Don't let your past experiences colour your future expectations and this is what insecurities usually do.
If you have materialistic tendencies, chances are that you will fall very deep into the trap of insecurities. Especially when you can't keep up with the lifestyle that you are killing yourself to live. Don't be in the habit of collecting and acquiring ALL the time.
Being a doubtful person can be very overwhelming, it's easier to tell yourself it will work out rather than it won't work out. If you suffer from this which most people do, just make it a strong prayer point and God will have it covered. It hinders success seriously.
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- SPOTTING INSECURITIES IN OTHERS -
People pleasers - Everyone can't like you, going around trying to please everyone will eventually lead to people hating you because you can't be STRAIGHT with the personality. It's just what it is. You end up faking half the time just to fit in. These people find it hard to say 'NO' because they feel they will be neglected if they do.
Chatterboxes - You always feel the need to let people know what you're doing ALL the time. No sense of surprise about you because all you ever want is to be noticed and receive attention. It's usually a sign of being insecure and not being happy within yourself.
Defensiveness - These people fight any attempts of anyone trying to give them constructive criticism. They just don't want to hear it. Getting productive feedback from people just don't work for them no matter what it is.
Body language is always the give away. The way a person holds themselves is a clear indicator of how they feel about themselves most times however, there is always the odd exception. Approach people with insecurities with caution and watch what you say and how you say things that affect them. Don't make yourself a negative influence in their lives.
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~ DON'T LET YOUR INSECURITIES KILL YOURSELF ESTEEM ~
OLIANDLOLA
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