HEY LADIES, HOPE YOU ARE ALL WELL.
Before we get into today's topic we have a little story for you.
Last night as we were making our way home on the underground we saw a man who, in our opinion, was the perfect example of a high value male. As we were casually talking we got distracted by this man who got on board the train; he was wearing a designer suit and carrying a very expensive Hermes briefcase ( we don't see that very often on the train). Now this man had us staring at him and completely starstruck (lol) and we both agreed that he was one of the most swarve gentleman we had seen in a long time. This inspired us to write this article for all you young ladies inregards to spotting a HIGH VALUE MAN.
So as we get into today's article we advice you to get comfortable as we give you 4 of our important criteria for spotting a high value man.
Now for some of you young ladies finding a good man is a difficult task as you do not seem to know the criteria for what defines a good man.
1. Appearance-
A man of high value ladies cares about his appearance, he understands the importance of looking physically good without overstepping the line and bordering on vain. Such a man knows that he has to be well dressed and never looking raggedy. He understands the importance of being clean and well kept. To check for how well a man looks after himself it can sometimes be the simple things that give it away: nails, haircut, clothing, and the way in which he carries himself. A self respecting high value man who is aware of himself and has presence. When he enters a room he is the type of man that women admire and men respect. To check for whether your man is far from vain and pompous, we recommend checking how he is viewed by his peers; a high value man should have the respect of his friends and they should know that regardless of how physically good looking he is he does not have delusion of grandeur. They should be reassured that he has respect for others and treats them as though they are on equal footing.
2. Good character-
Character is quintessential ladies when evaluating a man. His character reflects his values and moral compass. A high value gentleman does not believe in deceiving women, but has honesty and truth at the centre of his core. He values openness and shows appreciation for truth. Such a man is more trustworthy as he is less likely to participate in adulterous behaviour. If his character is good natured he won't be the type of man who simply makes promises, but he will be the type of man who keeps his word and knows that his actions are what people judge him on therefore he must be honourable. To judge good character we use the Josephson institute of ethics' 6 pillars of character as a guide to assessing a good man.
* Trustworthy - Is he a formidable man who people can trust? Does he have integrity?
Is he a loyal man who can be relied upon?
* Respect - Does he understand the golden rule of respect? Does he understand the importance of common courtesy?
* Responsible - Does he honour his duties? Does he understand the law of accountability and partake in the pursuit of excellence in regards to all he is trusted with?
* Fairness - Does he know how to be partial? Does he have consistency?
* Caring - Does he possess kindness, compassion and empathy?
*Citizenship - Is he lawful? Does he care for others and work for the common good of others?
3. Intelligence
Ladies this is such an important trait in a high value man, intelligence and good speech are such important things to look for. As young women we should be searching for men who a mentally stimulating; they should be able to hold a conversation without having to use foul language as a means of expressing themself. We should look for men who respect us through the way they speak to us, men who actually process their words and show keen interest in stimulating the mind and getting to know our thoughts and opinion on important matters. Now do not get us misunderstood we are not saying that this man has to be an Oxford scholar or that he has to be able to recite the English dictionary in its entirety we are simply saying that he should have some substance and depth.
4. Emotional control
A man of high value has a lot to think about, he can not afford to be emotionally unhinged. A high value man has responsibilities and therefore needs to be able to have mental stability. He does not let his emotions rule him or cloud his judgement. This is very important if you are looking for a guy that will help you build a home and create a strong foundation for something to grow. Also emotional control is important for preventing against domestic violence. A high value man does not use violence AT ALL, he is diplomatic in everything and would never threaten a woman. We got reminded of the importance of this after reading a tweet from a guy we follow on twitter. He was discussing the issue of domestic violence and made a statement saying that naturally men are physically stronger and if a man wishes to be respected then he should never threaten a woman or let his emotions dominate him and abuse women. This is an important area to pay attention to ladies because domestic violence is real. Also as women we should never provoke violence within men and think its okay to slap or hit a man.
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