DON'T SHOOT WE ONLY WANT TO LEARN - WOMEN AND EDUCATION


The right to obtaining knowledge through education should be made accessible to anyone who is willing to acquire it. Education should not be used by oppressive members of society as a method for stifling young minds through the selective picking, choosing and distributing of knowledge to those who they regard as externally/physically worthy enough to obtain it.

Women through time e.g Marie Sklodowska Curie and more recently Angela Merkel, Chancellor of Germany, have proven themselves to be more than capable of obtaining and, more so, surpassing men in regards to academic excellence. We as a gender should not have to keep proving ourselves as an adequate sex which deserves to be educated. The longer the struggle keeps being side-lined the more we will deal with saddening campaigns such as BRING BACK OUR GIRLS. This campaign was started after the extremist group Boko haram kidnapped 200+ girls with plans to sell them on the human trafficking marketplace in opposition to western education. Is it a fear of female excellence that makes such extremists oppress and stifle such beautiful young minds? If we unified on an international stage and were able to stop dwelling on sexual genitalia as a criteria for education and became capable of coming together to recognise female excellence such things would not occur. If we are unified in the importance of educating young girls and setting a premise for equality then maybe we can eventually move from this topic of unfairness and tackle other social and political issues.

The benefits of educating women can be seen in the current female president of Brazil Dilma Rousseff and other influential females such as the CEO of Xerox Ursula Burns who have uplifted themselves to great heights through education. The 21st century is characterised by change, innovation and the 21st century woman is more than capable of handling herself within such an environment. The decision to educate women should not be one that is even debatable anymore in this century and we do not need to keep defending out gender. It is absolutely disgusting that young girls like Malala Yousafzai get shot by groups like the Taliban for wanting to have equal rights and Western education. The campaign and equality movement that women like Malala, who has survived her persecution, fight for is a worthy cause. I am a strong human rights advocate and when it comes to gender differences I think that inequality is an injustice and like Martin Luther King said ‘injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere’. It is time that society accepts that women are intelligent and just as capable as our male counterparts.

This struggle cannot only be seen in the 3rd world countries but is still visible in the Western society. Although the equal rights revolution has occurred, we still see how some women are living in a state of limbo where some are now waiting for the changes to be accepted. This can be showcased in the recent issues with struggles for equal pay for women and other things which should have naturally come when women obtained the vote and other rights of that nature.

Everywoman has her desires and dreams and some do wish to be a housewives, but I think that for those who desire to make a mark on this world they should have the right to do so. The notion of a young girl not being allowed to choose her future is absolutely absurd. If being a housewife is their desired plan for life then by all means let them, but we should not subject those who do want to be educated to such a stereotypical role.

OLIANDLOLA

XO 

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PART 2

PART 2 
For those of you who are lucky in love and have plenty of dates lined up we have the perfect post which can help you dress to impress and look sexy yet appropriate ;) Now for those who are single and can not find any one to mingle with we say be patient and love will find its way to you. DON'T AWAKEN LOVE BEFORE ITS TIME. 
 
 
 
 
NIGHT OUT/ ELEGANT LOUNGE DATE
 
PARTY HARD AND SHOW YOUR FUN SIDE WHILST STILL LOOKING GOOD. 
 
* For a fun flirtatious date where you will be dancing and mingling with his friends we think this short cute outfit is perfect.
 
*We don't think the colour is too much, in fact, it's perfect for standing out and making sure he remembers how good you looked. The slick bad hair helps keep the look from being too dramatic and the lack of jewellery is an excellent choice.
 
* We would wear either a midi heel or a wedge as they are appropriate for walking as one isn't too high and the other is easy to walk in.
 
 
 
 
 
 
FAMILY DATE 
 
 
TIME TO MEET THE PARENTS - WHOOP WHOOP LOL
 
*For our lucky females who get to meet the parents and want to make a good impression the key to looking good is looking wholesome and respectable. 
 
*In the look, we would wear something like this if were going to meet the parents as it is stylish and elegant. White helps make her look more angelic and clean. NO MOTHER WOULD HATE HER LOOL
 
*We would also wear it if the occasion was a summer BBQ and you wanted to look feminine yet not over dressed. You can not go wrong with a nice dress . 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
CINEMA DATE 
 
 
*If your man wants to take you to the cinema and your struggling to find something that will look good yet appropriate then this outfit is for you.
 
*The jeans sit so well on her and the colour is amazing against her skin tone. If you are not as brave as her to wear bright jeans then a find whatever suits you and enjoy.
 
*She looks comfortable enough to be heading to the cinema but still looks breathtakingly beautiful. Her pair of shoes are perfect as she will be walking and you need to have shoes which can accommodate this. 
 
*You can either carry a clutch like her or get yourself a nice tote bag which can contain everything you will need.

OUR DATE OUTFITS

HEY THERE LUCKY LADIES 
 
1. LUNCH DATE 
 
*A lunch date is a great way to showcase your style while adhering to the casual nature of the date.
 
*The environment can determine to what extreme can you take your casual look. If your date has booked a nice restaurant and you are mostly gonna be sat having a calm lunch then putting on a heel can be perfect.
 
* If it's a more casual lunch date at a cafĂ©  then a nice smart/ casual and stylish flat shoes will be appropriate.
 
*In this picture, we think this look is the perfect combination of sexy without the trash and stylish while casual enough for the daytime.
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
2. BEACH DATE
 
 
For all our lucky ladies who get to enjoy a handsome man's company while enjoying the sun, all we can say is - we are so jealous of you.
 
*In this picture she is wearing a loose wrap and has a gorgeous bikini. This shows she has understood the give and take methodology for the date. She has showcased her upper body and remained covered at the bottom (that's good).
 
*If you do not favour your upper body and have killer legs then we recommend shorts and a loose top and some nice sandals showing your PEDICURED toes.
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
3. DINNER DATE 
 
 
The classic dinner date is one of our favourites as we can pull out our freakum dress and wow the man of our dreams.
 
*With this look ladies if you have that one dress which just does wonders for your body then do not be shy pull it out and make him drool.
 
*We love her shoes they are perfect. Every woman should aim to have  gorgeous midi heels. If you find the perfect shoes then you will be slaying because your legs will be looking on point.
 
*We also love the high neck line on the dress as she is keeping some secrecy and understands that not everything needs to be seen at once. Also this simple clutch is doing wonders as an accessory because it is adding to the whole look. 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
ART DATE look no. 1.
 
 
 
*This look is for the fashion forward art types, it allows for your style to be present and resembles the creative nature of the date due to the design and pattern. 
 
 
*The aim with this type of date is to use creativity as you tool for looking amazing. --COLOUR is your friend. 
 
 
*Do not be afraid to look different as your outfit will  reflect the creative aspect of the art gallery that you will be visiting. So do not be too worried about branching out and being free with your outfit. 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
ART LOOK no 2
 
 
 
For our flat footed art types this outfit is more appropriate as it allows you to look stylish and creative but a bit more casual than in the first look. 
 
 
*The creativity with the colours is still present as she is wearing red trousers and has paired it with a stripped blue jumper. Although, such colours should never be mixed in normal circumstances, in this situation, she looks perfect for the date environment.
 
*The jewellery and loose hair just help her look more free and creatively inclined which is perfect.
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
HOPE YOU ENJOYED OUR PART 1 OF THE DATE OUTFITS LOOK OUT FOR PART TWO
 
OLIANDLOLA 
 
HAPPY WEEKEND LADIES
 
XOX 

TASTEFUL TUESDAYS WITH TRACY

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TASTEFUL DESTINATIONS
Out and About with Tracy 
- MONTENEGRO -
 
*A  beautiful contact point between the earth and the sea*
 
The South East of Europe has been crowned with the beautiful Montenegro at its coast. It is a country in the  Balkan region of Europe along the Adriatic sea. Montenegrins are very cultured, close - knit group of people who preserve their history, language, religion and ethnic origin.
 
Tourists from all over the world come to Montenegro to enjoy the  crisp clean beaches. I'm talking clear blue water and white beaches! And it's hidden in these beautiful hills so you almost feel like you're in your own lush cave. Nature is prolific and creative in Montenegro. It is a  magnet for people seeking picturesque villas on the Mediterranean.
 
If you are thinking that a trip to Montenegro is expensive, it is quite affordable in terms of the lifestyle. A friend of mine recently visited and guarantees that you can have a fun, pleasurable experience at a relatively affordable rate. 

Looking for a quick getaway to a tasteful country?
 
How about giving the tasteful Montenegro a try!!! It is pure bliss and the whole point of the week is the weekend!! I will definitely be spending a few weekends here seeking adventures and opening up my mind especially when I feel like taking a breather from Paris.
  
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Hope you all enjoyed reading this, I'm about to have a raspberry tart  with a friend before heading back home.
 
Perfect end to a busy day.
 
 
 

Being smart in Love – A LOT CAN BE PERCEIVED IN SILENCE

 
SMART DATING IS ABOUT UNDERSTANDING THAT NOT EVERYTHING IN LIFE NEEDS TO BE RUSHED.  IT IS ABOUT PROTECTING YOURSELF FROM UNNECESSARY HARM BY DOING YOUR DUE DILIGENCE AND THROUGHLY ASSESSING THE TYPE OF PERSON YOU ARE INTERESTED IN. IT IS THE ABILITY TO READ BETWEEN THE LINES AND OBSERVE THINGS SILENTLY AS A MEANS OF PREVENTING OURSELVES FROM FALLING BLINDLY IN TO TRAPS. 
 
1. TELL YOUR FEELINGS TO COLLECT SOME CHILL
 
In these situations sometimes you need to just relax on the intense feelings and administer some chill. If you are prone to falling to quick then make a habit of reminding yourself that sometimes slow and steady wins the race and also helps save face.
 
 It can sometimes be a little too intense if you are showing extreme feelings for a person who you have only just met, so please collect some chill.
 
Just because the person maybe physically attractive does not mean we should be blind to personality and important things such as beliefs and moral principles.
 
If you allow yourself to have fanciful eyes you might find yourself entering a relationship where you get along for a few years due to the happy honeymoon stage but then breaking up or divorcing depending on how far in you take the relationship.
 
Most people can tolerate someone who is different to them for so long but eventually they collide. If you fail to calm your feelings and investigate their beliefs and really look at the meaning of their actions and how they conduct themselves in comparison to other men or women then you might just be entering a doomed relationship
 
2. SIT BACK AND ASSESS
 
Most times ladies and gents it is good to sit and assess how you are feeling about the ‘relationship’, do not be in a rush to get in a relationship or be with someone to the point where you do not take time to assess the person’s personality. The personality that people approach you with on first impression tends to be a lie; everyone seeks to impress with their first impression so they tend to put their best foot forward.
 
You as a smart dater should be aware of this always and take time to get comfortable with the person so they show you their true nature. Do not get frilly and start losing all sense and logic just because you are getting attention, make sure you maintain a certain level of calm which allows you to SEE behind the little actions and habits that the person has. 
 
-FEW THINGS TO CONSIDER-
*EACH PERSON HAS CERTAIN IMPORTANT FACTORS WHICH THEY USE AS A TICK LIST*
 
FOR MEN
 
Is she sexually promiscuous and easy to get in bed?
 
Does she lose a lot of female friends?
 
Is she wifey material?
 
What is her moral compass like?
 
How did you attain her? – gives insight on how free she is.
 
Has she had drama surrounding her?
 
Does she have prospects? – (dreams and vision)
 
 
-Food for thought-
If she was your child would you be pleased by her actions ?
– whatever she does will be what she passes on to your daughter
 
FOR WOMEN
 
Does he have wondering eyes?
 
Does he have a history of cheating?
 
Does he cause trouble and get into drama?
 
What is his temper like?
 
Does he respect women?
 
 
RELIGIOUSLY (If you value religion)  
 
Does he/she believe in anything?
 
Does he/she pretend to be religious?
 
Does he/she actually have a godly heart?
 
Is she a virtuous woman?
 
Is he a man of valor?
 
 THE SUMMARY 
 
As a smart dater it is your duty to have your eyes wide open and look and guard yourself from fools by thoroughly checking out the person you are with.
 
WE (oliandlola) practice the art of observation with just about everything in life. Life has taught us that sometimes you need to take it slow and take time to ASSESS the situation before leaping head first. A lot of people approach us asking for relationship advice and what we have noticed is that they tend to get caught up in feelings a little too quickly and get hurt.
 
We understand that as we enter a certain stage of our lives we start to search for companionship and that person who can complete us. We search for the one person who we will grow old with, but in that search we can sometimes be a little foolish in the game of love. This is where we both employ the notion of smart dating. 
 
 
OLIANDLOLA
 
XO 
 
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BEING A LADY

A WOMAN SHOULD BE TWO THINGS - CLASSY AND FABULOUS - COCO CHANEL



Nowadays women are losing their class and elegance; not a lot of women can be described as classy and feminine anymore. For us being put together and growing as women is important, this can be hard sometimes if were busy but at least we try. Alot of women who are in the media actually have to undertake lessons on elegance and being put together which reiterates the importance of this dying quality. 

There is nothing wrong with a little refinement 

How to be well put together 


* Have a day of pampering and retouching - For us we try to always stay up to date with our BODY KEEPING. This tends to involve stuff like getting our nails done, deep conditioning our our hair, facials, pedicures etc. Looking clean and well kept is key to looking elegant and should just be a requirement for all women. 

* Being aware of yourself- Being aware of yourself is important, as women we should know the little things such as how to sit elegantly,  the correct posture  and being well spoken. Each one of these things can help make you look classy if executed correctly. 


SIMPLICITY IS THE KEY NOTE TO ELEGANCE. 

If your looking for inspiration women like: 
GRACE KELLY,
COCO CHANEL AND 
JACQUELINE KENNEDY
are great to look at as they were known in their time to have been the epitome of grace and elegance.Their style was revolutionary and we wish women could value their reputation like these women did.


OLIANDLOLA 


REAL SAYINGS - FOOD FOR THOUGHT

REAL LIFE SAYINGS TO GET YOU THINKING

Everybody isn't your friend. Just because they hang around you and laugh with you doesnt mean they're for you. Just because they say they got your back, doesn't mean they won't stab you in it. People pretend well. Jealousy sometimes doesn't live far. So know your circle. At the end of the day real situations expose fake people, so pay attention.
- Unknown

Many times "friends" can't support you PUBLICLY because of how they've spoken of you PRIVATELY.
- Unknown

Maturity comes when you stop making excuses and start making changes.
- Powerplug

Until we have seen someone's darkness we don't really know who they are. Until we have forgiven someone's darkness, we dont really know what love is.
- Marianne Williamson

There comes a time in life, where you walk away from all the drama and people who create it. Surround yourself with people who make you laugh, forget the bad and focus on the good. Love the people who treat you right. Pray for the ones who don't. Life is too short to be anything but happy. Falling down is part of life, getting back up is living.
- Unknown

If they miss you, they'll call. If they want you, they'll say it. And if they care, they'll show it. If not, they can't be worth your time because you're obviously not worth theirs.
- Unknown

Love didn't hurt you. Someone who doesn't know how to love hurt you and you confused the two.
- Tony Gaskins

Your biggest risk will be the one you don't take.
- Unknown

If you focus on what you have left behind, you will never be able to see what lies ahead.

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