WOULD HE BRING YOU HOME TO MUM?

QUICK RELATIONSHIP ADVICE 


When it comes to meeting his family, every decent girl should put themselves in a position to make them love her. It's always best to be cool and calm because it would give them a positive perception about you. If he hasn't popped the question yet about introducing you to his family, maybe you should work on your charm a bit more. However, consistently being the life of a party with your friends can also be detrimental to your relationship because he could feel that you are not serious enough and it could taint his image if he took a bold step to introduce you to his family.

Stay classy, be well mannered and have social skills. Most of all, be respectful. Every mother wants the best for their child and so they have to see the best in you to consider you being part of their family. Remember, getting married isn't about the man alone. It's about his whole family. Set standards for yourself in order to make you a better person if you feel you haven't particularly reached your goals in terms of your relationship.

Accordingly, some men might not ask for a very very long time because they feel you both have a solid relationship and he is trying to protect you from the dangers of his family probably because he is from a traumatic home. Or he could just feel that you are not serious enough to meet his parents and this is a bad position to be in because you may never be able to get out of that position in the relationship.

Most importantly as a woman, search within yourself to figure out if you are worthy of an introduction to the people that matter the most in his life. If you have reached this stage and you are wondering why it still hasn't happened, be bold and say "I'd like to meet your family" just to feel his pores. It can actually make him realize that you are very serious and you are interested in a future with him.

ALWAYS REMEMBER TO PRAY AND PLAN.


ARE YOU READY TO BE A WIFE?




If you are ready for marriage, the first step is to STOP dating men that seem to have no potential. i.e. Non - husband material. Pray a lot more than you usually do for God to give you your own husband and put you in the right direction. You also have to be ready to let love into your life and enjoy it. You must be able to take personal responsibility for your love life and do what is necessary to be happy. At this stage, maturity is key.

You need to start being visible to the right men. When you do that, you start getting your way and dating becomes fun thus getting you closer to achieving your ultimate goal. Make sure you are not holding back, give the relationship all you've got because that way you are slowly becoming wifey material. Use your years of dating experience to make your last relationship your BEST relationship. Multitudes of single women think they are ready to be a wife but the truth of the matter is that they are not emotionally ready. They still subconsciously think that the world still revolves around them.

Is there a right time to get married?

Everyone's time and calling is totally different. The harsh reality is that NOT everyone will get married. Some people are just destined to be single. But when you feel you are ripe enough to ask yourself this question, position yourself properly in the right place to meet the right person. Make sure you are strong enough to accept and embrace change because there will be a lot of this in your life as a wife. Be prepared for the person your are marrying to show you a totally different side of him you never knew. Be ready to accept all that he has told you about himself as you have decided to take a decision to get married to him.

Some people are 40 when they start asking themselves the ultimate question especially if you were 'unlucky in love' or you found love late in life. Whilst asking yourself this question, it's important to realize that in marriage, nothing is really ever private. Be ready to share your life with your spouse.

READY TO BE A WIFE NOW?

THATS ALL WE HAVE TO SHARE WITH YOU TODAY! 

Bless

HIGH VALUE. CLASS GENTLEMAN.


HEY LADIES, HOPE YOU ARE ALL WELL. 

Before we get into today's topic we have a little story for you. 

Last night as we were making our way home on the underground we saw a man who, in our opinion, was the perfect example of a high value male. As we were casually talking we got distracted by this man who got on board the train; he was wearing a designer suit and carrying a very expensive Hermes briefcase ( we don't see that very often on the train). Now this man had us staring at him and completely starstruck (lol) and we both agreed that he was one of the most swarve gentleman we had seen in a long time. This inspired us to write this article for all you young ladies inregards to spotting a HIGH VALUE MAN. 


So as we get into today's article we advice you to get comfortable as we give you 4 of our important criteria for spotting a high value man. 

Now for some of you young ladies finding a good man is a difficult task as you do not seem to know the criteria for what defines a good man. 


1. Appearance- 

A man of high value ladies cares about his appearance, he understands the importance of looking physically good without overstepping the line and bordering on vain. Such a man knows that he has to be well dressed and never looking raggedy. He understands the importance of being clean and well kept. To check for how well a man looks after himself it can sometimes be the simple things that give it away: nails,  haircut, clothing, and the way in which he carries himself. A self respecting high value man who is aware  of himself and has presence. When he enters a room he is the type of man that women admire and men respect. To check for whether your man is far from vain and pompous, we recommend checking how he is viewed by his peers; a high value man should have the respect of his friends and they should know that regardless of how physically good looking he is he does not have delusion of grandeur. They should be reassured that he has respect for others and treats them as though they are on equal footing.


2. Good character-

Character is quintessential ladies when evaluating a man. His character reflects his values and moral compass. A high value gentleman does not believe in deceiving women, but has honesty and truth at the centre of his core. He values openness and shows appreciation for truth. Such a man is more trustworthy as he is less likely to participate in adulterous behaviour. If his character is good natured he won't be the type of man who simply makes promises, but he will be the type of man who keeps his word and knows that his actions are what people judge him on therefore he must be honourable. To judge  good character we use the Josephson institute of ethics' 6 pillars of character as a guide to assessing a good man.



* Trustworthy - Is he a formidable man who people can trust? Does he have integrity?
Is he a loyal man who can be relied upon? 

* Respect - Does he understand the golden rule of respect? Does he understand the importance of common courtesy?

* Responsible - Does he honour his duties? Does he understand the law of accountability and partake in the pursuit of excellence in regards to all he is trusted with?

* Fairness - Does he know how to be partial? Does he have consistency?

* Caring - Does he possess kindness, compassion and empathy?

*Citizenship - Is he lawful? Does he care for others and work for the common good of others?


3. Intelligence

Ladies this is such an important trait in a high value man, intelligence and good speech are such important things to look for. As young women we should be searching for men who a mentally stimulating; they should be able to hold a conversation without having to use foul language as a means of expressing themself. We should look for men who respect us through the way they speak to us, men who actually process their words and show keen interest in stimulating the mind and getting to know our thoughts and opinion on important matters. Now do not get us misunderstood we are not saying that this man has to be an Oxford scholar or that he has to be able to recite the English dictionary in its entirety we are simply saying that he should have some substance and depth. 


4. Emotional control

A man of high value has a lot to think about, he can not afford to be emotionally unhinged.  A high value man has responsibilities and therefore needs to be able to have mental stability. He does not let his emotions rule him or cloud his judgement. This is very important if you are looking for a guy that will help you build a home and create a strong foundation for something to grow. Also emotional control is important for preventing against domestic violence. A high value man does not use violence AT ALL, he is diplomatic in everything and would never threaten a woman. We got reminded of the importance of this after reading a tweet from a guy we follow on twitter. He was discussing the issue of domestic violence and made a statement saying that naturally men are physically stronger and if a man wishes to be respected then he should never threaten a woman or let his emotions dominate him and abuse women.  This is an important area to pay attention to ladies because domestic violence is real. Also as women we should never provoke violence within men and think its okay to slap or hit a man. 


OLIANDLOLA 

DID WE ACCOMPLISH THE DREAM?

 WOULD KING BE PLEASED?

2 score and 6 years ago one of the brightest flame to ever light up the face of the earth and attempt to bring about justice through equality was extinguished to never shine again. Martin Luther King was undoubtedly one of the most notable activists to ever campaign for the ‘Negro’ (Black) man. His calculated character killing led the world to lose one of the greatest campaigners for peace.

He alongside many others, such as the Little Rock Nine, organisations like the National Association for the Advancement of Coloured People (NAACP) and their long serving members such as Thurgood Marshall, all campaigned for the equality of the coloured man. They faced great trial to enhance the position of the African American within a society which strongly opposed this campaign.

Martin Luther King, although had been an activist for a long time, largely started to gain recognition around the 1950s - 60s. He was one of the leading figures in the fight for black equality.  His great use of figures of speech to portray his ideas made him one of history’s most electrifying public speakers. His ability to captivate and engage a crowd led him to deliver one of the most memorable speeches to be recorded in history. It was on the steps of the Lincoln Memorial that Martin Luther King refused to partake in a laissez faire attitude towards equality. He encouraged people to believe that the ‘bank of justice’ could not be ‘bankrupt’ regarding the equality of the ‘Negro’ (Black) man. It was in this speech that King stated his dreams and desires for unity. He took us down memory lane referencing the progress experienced through the signing of the Emancipation Act of 1863 then reversed this reflective mood by encouraging us to imagine HIS preferred future thorough his expression of his hopes and dreams for the human race.

Looking back on some of the hopes outlined in the speech we ask ourselves:

Question 1 - Did we make Martin Luther King proud?

Question 2 - Did the human race successfully band together to achieve the stage of unity that King so coveted?



LET US DISCUSS

Departing from the inequality faced by the ‘Negro’ we want to broaden the point of consideration. We wish to discuss the failures of the human race, not to the black man in particular, but to any being who faces inequality. We wish to employ the dreams and desires of Martin Luther King to help us assess how well the human race has attempted to create world peace and equality.

The word equality eludes to a state of fairness; it conjures up a semantic field of words such as justness, non-discrimination and all other synonymous words which inspire us to treat others as equals and give them the respect they deserve. From a thorough evaluation of our society,  we noticed inequality is something that is learnt and NOT innate. As we enter into the land of the living, as a foetus, we are not born with racist ideology or discriminatory values, so therefore society must be our teacher.

Maybe the issue with achieving equality is in the definition of equality; most people think equality is about being the same, but we think it is more about respect and the acceptance of others. If the world was to adopt a respectful and accepting personality then maybe the topic of inequality would be non-existent. However, as humans we have a desire to make everyone uniformed in the same way instead of accepting them for who they are. This is where we fail in regards to why we still experience inequality; for example the issue with Muslim women wearing a hijab. If society was to be more accepting and respectful then Muslim women wearing a hijab would not be a concern. In our opinion it is not anyone’s business how another individual wishes to live their life; if the desired form of living does not cause harm to another then who are we to combat it?

‘‘All men are created Equal’’ – Martin Luther King

King’s notion of equality being the same for every man was an echo of the words shared by Abraham Lincoln in The Gettysburg Address. Within today’s society this proposed sense of equality cannot be identified in some communities; for example the racially led killing of Stephen Lawrence in London 1993, and much recently the fatal shooting of Michael Brown in Ferguson. These racially motivated murders led to racial tension within these respective communities and disappointingly attest to small signs of inequality.

 However, as we seek to discuss inequality on wider scale than just that faced by the black man let us put aside the issue of racism leading to these murders and deal with the topic of murder on its own. Murder is a lack of respect for another man’s life. It is a blatant disregard for the right to live that we all possess as soon as we are conceived in the womb. Such murders destroy lives and show that a lack of equality can damage communities. If sown, inequality can be a seed which leads to major discord within the human race. It can lead to a sense of superiority over others and hinder social progress. It is a way of thinking which prevents the mind from experiencing the benefits of a unified community.

Alongside murder, sexual violence during wartime conflict is a social and political issue which highlights a lack of equality. It is an example of the inhumane actions that come from people feeling they are more valuable than others. Rape of any kind is dishonourable and when committed in the midst of war is a form of discrimination evident in places like the Democratic Republic of Congo. It is therefore encouraging to see events such as the June 2014 global summit held to combat such a heinous crime. These summits are a selfless appeal for equality which King would be proud to see. It is steps such as these which will help achieve King’s dreams, as influential world delegates are taking the necessary steps to band together to fight for people’s rights therefore fighting for the notion “all men are created equal” and should be treated so.

’Table of brotherhood’’ – Martin Luther King.

The ways in which our society is run does not assist in the fight for equality. We find that we try to classify everyone, e.g. Black African, White, Hispanic, gay, bisexual etc. instead of putting everyone under an umbrella title of human being. These small constant reminders, although not intended to be a form of separation, will forever reinforce the differences between people and therefore hinder the notion of a “TABLE OF BROTHERHOOD” which in its simplest form exemplifies unity. Until we reach this stage of treating each other as human beings we can only say we have taken small steps towards achieving the desired equality that Martin Luther King died for. We have removed the obvious discrimination, but replaced it with less discrete forms of segregation.

“The smallest stain of inequality acts as a blanket over equality for all of humanity” – Oliandlola

This quote might seem extreme as it generalises one small negative action toward the whole of humanity, but it is plausible. Equality should be a desire that the whole of humanity should work towards, if we have one individual who is against this process they could be a stain on the blanket of equality as they could potentially spread their ideology in a way that causes mass indoctrination e.g. Hitler. It is individuals like these who prevent society from moving forward as they are a stain for humanity and it only takes the smallest stain to make something dirty.

Food for thought:
Will there ever be a point whereby EQUALITY becomes the opium of the people as it’s supposed to be?

“Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere”- Martin Luther King

TERRY PRACHETT - CHOOSING TO DIE

 TERRY PRACHETT - CHOOSING TO DIE

Remember it’s not murder it’s assisted suicide.
Kindran Ornitier

Terry Prachett’s ‘Choosing to Die’ one – off controversial television documentary filmed specifically for BBC Scotland, predominantly supports the notion of assisted suicide. Similarly, it poses ethical concerns as it seeps into the participant’s private life in order to drive the narrative. This intrusive documentary features a 71- year old motor neuron disease sufferer who was willing to take his own life in a very peaceful manner at the Swiss assisted dying organisation – Dignitas with his wife. Accordingly, it gave the audience an insight into how Terry might choose to end his life after being diagnosed with Alzheimer’s a few years ago. Although the film sparked controversy and was criticized by organizations that support life as well as Christian movements, the BBC was able to deny all the accusations it was bombarded with.


Furthermore, the approach of this documentary places the audience in an uncomfortable situation in terms of our engagement with the film. Although it is a film that educates and enlightens the audience, it also connects deeply with emotions which can sometimes be very detrimental in terms of emotional responses being triggered. It certainly is a documentary addressing the social/political issue of assisted suicide.


It prompts the question of whether attempted suicide is right or wrong and whether it should be legal in countries where it is still deemed as illegal.


In countries whereby religion is predominantly the opium of the people, assisted suicide will not necessarily be looked at as a pathway to peace rather, it would be seen as a pathway to fire and destruction especially from a Christian perspective. However, from a reality perspective which is a lot more black & white, it is deemed acceptable especially when critical circumstances are dominant with the person considering it.

In our opinion, if you a strong enough to consider suicide as the termination of your circumstance, you should be strong enough to overcome the zeal of committing suicide and hope a for a better tomorrow.

More like living in the hope of the unknown but being optimistic that your circumstance will get better.


According to the NHS (National Health Service), assisted suicide under the Suicide Act (1961) is illegal under the British Law as it is seen as encouraging an individual to kill themselves. It is punishable by up to 14 years imprisonment. However, committing suicide or attempting suicide is not a criminal act in itself.

The question still fondly remains that if you cannot give life, who are you to take life or assist someone in taking theirs?

What if there is a mind change in the process (after drinking poison) and it can’t be reversed?

Supporters involved in legalizing assisted suicide claim that everyone should have a right to freely do what they want with their lives as long as others are not harmed in the process. It is believed to be a freedom of choice and when some people want their lives taken with assistance, their choice should be respected. Some people are in circumstances whereby they are constantly in excruciating pain and are in the discomfort of terminal diseases, in this case it should be acceptable for them to take their life when they are ready to do so.

In the world we live in today, the 21st century can be viewed as a free world which supports the motive  -

‘To each their own’.